How To Effortlessly Start Up Conversation With A Girl

Some of the best conversationalists I know are the people who say the least. They are the ones who listen. And, that is the key to starting up a conversation with a girl – let her do the talking!

Most men, no matter how old they are, have troubles starting up conversations with girls. How is this possible? Women LOVE to talk! Let them talk! On average, a woman speaks 7,000 words every day. A man speaks 2,000. So, let her do the talking.

Starting up a conversation just takes a little imagination. If you see a girl you are interested in, all you need is a “hook” – a small way to reel her in, and the rest will be easy. If she has interesting shoes on, tell her you like them and ask her where she bought them. She’ll talk for hours. If you know her from school, ask about a class she is taking. If you know she likes a sport or a band, ask her about that.

The key to good conversation is to never ask a “closed end” question. That is, never ask a question that can be answered with either a “yes” or a “no”. Asking a girl, “Do you like this class?” will get you nowhere. But asking a girl, “What other classes are you taking?” will elicit a longer answer. Then follow up with a question about one of her other classes. And, so on.

Be careful, though. I once knew a man who did this with such precision that you felt like you were on a game show when you talked to him. It was annoying and it seemed intrusive. After an hour of talking with him, it occurred to me that he had revealed absolutely nothing about himself, yet had asked me question after question. Make sure that your initial questioning eventually ends in a fair “give and take” of information.