Some of us weren’t born with excessive height. Even more of us have too much weight for our height. In other words, we need to at least appear taller to support the bulk we are carrying around. Many height-challenged have the misfortune of dating people who are not just inches, but often a full head taller than them, so dressing to appear taller can be important.

For women, it is easy to appear taller. Wear heels. Period. Even by adding an inch, you will see the difference. This is easy to do when you are dressing up, but not so easy in every day life.

For casual attire, there are several ways to go. Women can wear tennis or casual shoes with higher heels built in. Of course they aren’t built for a jog around the block, but they can still be comfortable. Some flip-flops are also made (and oddly enough, they are very popular right now) with higher soles.

You can also fake people into thinking that you are taller by doing several things. They don’t call it “big hair” for nothing! Pile that hair up on the top of your head for a few extra inches. The higher, the better!

Vertical stripes also work! By wearing a pair of pin-stripe pants, you will appear taller. A long, tight-fitting blouse or jacket with thin stripes will also increase both your virtual height but also reduce your size. Clothes that are tighter will make you appear taller (and slimmer). If you have ever seen a short person with large, baggy pants, you will notice how much shorter they seem. The opposite can also be true. Put tight-fitting pants on the same person and they will seem taller.

For men, high heels are not really an option, although traditional dress shoes do come in heels up to 1″ high. Anything higher than that, and people will know you are “heightening”. Feel free to put an insert into your shoes for a few extra centimeters.

The best thing both genders can do, however, to increase their virtual height, is to stand up straight. Standing up straight can add several inches to your height instantly. Remember what your mom used to tell you – put your shoulders back, your chest out, and stand up straight!

Some of the best conversationalists I know are the people who say the least. They are the ones who listen. And, that is the key to starting up a conversation with a girl – let her do the talking!

Most men, no matter how old they are, have troubles starting up conversations with girls. How is this possible? Women LOVE to talk! Let them talk! On average, a woman speaks 7,000 words every day. A man speaks 2,000. So, let her do the talking.

Starting up a conversation just takes a little imagination. If you see a girl you are interested in, all you need is a “hook” – a small way to reel her in, and the rest will be easy. If she has interesting shoes on, tell her you like them and ask her where she bought them. She’ll talk for hours. If you know her from school, ask about a class she is taking. If you know she likes a sport or a band, ask her about that.

The key to good conversation is to never ask a “closed end” question. That is, never ask a question that can be answered with either a “yes” or a “no”. Asking a girl, “Do you like this class?” will get you nowhere. But asking a girl, “What other classes are you taking?” will elicit a longer answer. Then follow up with a question about one of her other classes. And, so on.

Be careful, though. I once knew a man who did this with such precision that you felt like you were on a game show when you talked to him. It was annoying and it seemed intrusive. After an hour of talking with him, it occurred to me that he had revealed absolutely nothing about himself, yet had asked me question after question. Make sure that your initial questioning eventually ends in a fair “give and take” of information.

Okay, maybe you’re not so picky about what kind of girl you want.  
Maybe you just miss the company of females in general and want to
love as many women as possible before you die.  Nothing wrong with
that, it worked for Warren Beatty.  On the other hand, maybe you
just want to meet a greater population of women so you can be sure
of what you really want in a long-term relationship.  This is
smart, because often times we misdiagnose ourselves and don’t know
what we really want until we’re looking at her right in the face.  
Now is not the time to think of love or other complications.  Now
is the time to meet women, women, more women and a few hot girls
along the way!

What can you do to attract more girls?  Here are some tips that
may help you, and believe it or not, most of these “tricks” are
non-verbal cues.  It should go without saying that in order to
appeal to women on a purely physical level, you must take care of
yourself.  Shower, apply good-smelling products and dress like
you’re a movie star.  You’re already looking more attractive than
those dirty cowboys who just barely put on a shirt and pants
before heading out the door.

Now that you’re at least moderately attractive in form (and
already in advantage if you look young and successful) it’s time
to focus on the most important dynamic in flirting: eye contact.  
Women always notice a man’s eyes, as these are a window to the
soul, and one of the best tools you will ever have in your sexual
repertoire.  Do not be afraid of eye contact.  As soon as you
enter a room, make eye contact with all of the girls you think are
cute.  Don’t hesitate or seem only half-interested.  Look into her
eyes—don’t stare at her breasts or legs.  You’re not ordering
chicken, dude!  You’re trying to make an emotional connection.

Now you do have to walk a fine line in between happy go lucky fool
and leering psychopath.  You want to smile in the spirit of
interest and friendliness.  Don’t alarm the poor girl, but try and
keep a sexy, cool stare.  You’re communicating thoughts in this
time.  You’re communicating that you find her attractive and that
you’re a hot guy interested in a hot girl.  What’s great about
keeping eye contact is that you will know immediately if there is
some compatibility in the air.  An interested woman will return
your eye contact, perhaps turning away at first, but then
returning to your glance.

Eye contact is the most important part of flirting, but it’s by no
means the last step.  Most women will not be aggressive and walk
right up to you just because she finds you attractive.  (Women are
browbeaten by society to be ladylike)  You have to approach her
and convey confidence in the way you walk and talk.  Even if you
can’t feign Vin Diesel-like machismo, she will still be impressed
that you took a chance and approached her.  Stay observant and
look for any signs of preening (like touching her hair or
adjusting her clothes) that indicate she’s still interested.

Don’t get so carried away in playing the role of James Bond that
you forget to come across as a friendly and non-threatening guy.  
Women like confidence but not senseless aggression.  The most
important lesson to learn here is to always go towards what you
want, not recoil.  Successful men attract women because they show
interest in body language and in direct communication.  Timid men
avoid conversation and hide from any undue attention.  Is it any
surprise these are the kind of guys who have trouble meeting
women?  Not you though…now you know how to attract all sorts of
women and filter through them like the superstar you are.  Have
fun with that, yeah?